I am very attracted to a married man that I know from social circles. I want to start up an affair with him, but am not comfortable enough to confront him face-to-face. I would like to write him an email to let him know I am interested, but I need help with what to say. Basically I just want to tell him that I am very attracted to him, and I want to have a physical relationship. But how do you say "hi I want to sleep with you" tactfully?   Help!

Zara, I recommend that you NOT do this.  Likely others agree, which is why you have not received any responses to this.  It's a bad idea.

Sorry for the long delay, but I think that Red may be right.

Your discomfort probably is a good sign that you aren't ready for such an undertaking, and (assuming that you aren't married yourself), this poses great risk to your social friend.

Affairs of the type we discuss here, which is to say the ones that aren't one-night-stands, require a level of committment and dedication that is even more intense than marriage.  Truly.  It's much harder in fact.

I find it interesting that you would use the word "confront" in your desire to email in fact.  I don't want to read way too much into it, but that's a very negative word with connotations generally reserved for the wronged spouses.  I think "approach" would have shown a less contentious interpretation of how that talk might go.

But before we dismiss the idea out of hand, you didn't give us any indication of whether you were getting signals from him that he might be receptive.  Does he flirt with you, or give any double-entendes?  Is there a reason you believe that he would be interested?

From your short post, you only indicate that you would like to start an affair with him based on your attraction to him.  This next point may be applicable, or may not be, but it certainly is one I hope visitors remember:

If you are single and your affair target is married, he or she needs to be the one that decides whether a relationship can go forward safely.

The fact that you are attracted to him is actually dangerous for the married person.  Respect their right to feel it isn't safe.

If you do email him, just be sure to give him a polite "out" that recognizes it might be logistically impossible.

-Dick