Well, it has been almost 4 months now and we are continuing to see each other once or twice a week, when his job permits.  It is very hard, stealing a little time here and there during his lunch or maybe on a Satuday here and there.  We never spend more than 2 or 3 hours together at a time.  It is very hard to be apart from each other.  I don't think I was prepared for the dull ache in my soul.  The affair is easy right now, but my hubby will be home in a couple of months and then things will be harder to keep under wraps.  I have 2 wonderful men in my life, who are alike in a lot of ways and have so much in common with each other, but yet are so different and make me feel totally different when I am with each of them.  I wish that I could have a life with both of them and us all live under one roof, so happy together....What a wonderful fantasy!  I do not want to choose between these men.  I like what each of them brings into my life, but I am afraid of what might happen if the affair is discovered.  I don't want to harm either relationship in any way.  

While that lament seems so very unrealistic, let me put on record that I think we are about to see a campaign about that very thing.

As the gay and lesbian community gets more and more rights as regards to marriage and civil partnerships, it will be very hard to deny those in polyamorous relationships something similar.  The arguments are virtually identical, so you heard it here first...such arrangements are just around the corner from being legitimized.

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